I can't possibly be the only person out there to absolutely HATE New Year's Eve. It seems like there is just so much pressure that surrounds the holiday, when in actuality, it is just another day. Why do we have to make such a big deal about it?? It's almost as bad as Valentine's day! If you are seeing someone, then there is all this pressure and question over what you are going to do and how you are going to make it special. Are you going to go out to a special dinner? Or are you just going to spend time together alone?
Or are you going to go to a club with a bunch of your friends? And, it's even worse if you are alone. You go out with your friends, and are surrounded by happy couples, kissing and toasting and ringing in the new year. You try to pretend like it doesn't bother you, and like you are happy for all of those other happy couples. When really, inside your head you are screaming, GAG ME WITH A SPOON!And movies and television shows make it even worse, with all of the hype that surrounds NYE. I've told you more than once, how much I LOVE, "When Harry Met Sally." And it is one of the most quintessential scenes of any movie ever. When Harry comes to see Sally right before the big countdown, and tells her that he can't live without her.
"I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." And every single time I watch the movie, I hope that maybe someday I will have a New Years Eve that is half that romantic. And they just never are. It seems like I am always alone, and someone always gets sick, or drinks too much, or wants to go home early. Is it just me?? Do you hate New Years Eve as much as I do? Or do you have some ultra-romantic story to inspire hope within me?
-Eager Beaver
Eager Beaver,
Well, actually last year I had plans for the first time in a long time; ringing in 2010 at El Gaucho in Seattle. And, amazingly, I met someone! Someone who graduated from a high school that mine competed with, so we had lots in common, also went to the UW like I did, just had many similarities. Couldn't believe my good luck, especially since the MARRIED COUPLE group I was with, and one other single friend, were ready to leave at 11:30!! What? He kissed me at Midnight, hooray, and came back to my friend's condo with all of us, and his friends too, and we stayed up until 3:00. Very fun. Then we saw each other a couple of more times before I had to leave. I had a great romantic weekend, we talked for the week after that trying to figure out when we could see other again, both of us have jobs and kids, and it just didn't work out.
Typically though, have had no plans for fun the last eight years. This New Year's being a little worse than others. Had four friends die in 16 days. Awful, awful, awful. My teenage kids had plans. I sat at home in the dark and cried on the phone with my mother about my friends. About 9 pm I was finally ready to try to escape my grief a little by watching a movie when...my DVD player died. Most horrible, lonely New Year's ever.
I agree, the build-up surrounding New Year's is just as horrible as Valentine's Day. In some ways worse because you're really looking for a sign that you'll somehow have a magical new beginning when in reality it's just a day, a day we made up when man created the calendar. So it has no actual meaning anymore than Valentine's Day does, the Russian and Chinese celebrate a totally different day. It's really weird when you think about it. It's completely fabricated and self-created pressure. F' it. All we've got is today and my friends don't even have that. Each day should be a new beginning...so Happy New Year Eager Beaver. I love you!
-Hot Mama
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