Sexting: Totally Exposed

Dear Eager Beaver,

So, I just had my first sexting experience. Ever. Wow. Pictures and everything. Very, very racy. Somehow, to me, more racy than phone sex which I 've had before but not much. I think it was more scary to me because you leave yourself very exposed, literally. But because it's scary it elevated the hotness of it. I now understand why people do these crazy things, crazy things like send photos to one another and take videos (also uncharted territory) because it bumps up the whole thing to a four star roller coaster ride (are roller coasters rated?). But after the thrill wears off you're not just wondering where the elephant ear stand is... You're wondering if the person is trustworthy and if you've just endangered your job, family, etc. Because as we all know from celebrities, even boyfriends and husbands, can turn on you and do things like post it on the internet or worse. So, I can't imagine that that many people do it or is that naïve on my part? Did it just seem like super risky behavior because I've never done it?
-Hot Mama

Hot Mama,

So I definitely love sexting, and find it to be very fun and very sexy. But I think that you are absolutely right to have your concerns. The innocent and flirtatious sexting with just words is one thing, but as soon as you get into pictures and videos, you are right to be cautious. I have done the whole descriptive sexting (minus the picutres and videos) with different guys that I have been with. In my short, but colorful, dating past, I have only gotten into "hardcore" sexting with one person that I was with. In the beginning, I would check with him all the time to make sure that he deleted the pictures and videos, so that no one would EVER see them. I didn't want to risk him showing them to someone else, or someone picking up his phone and seeing them on accident. I trusted him completely though, and as soon as I got comfortable with the idea, it made it that much more fun. Sending dirty pics, texts, messages, videos, etc. can keep things exciting, and make a long and boring day at work pass by more quickly. Definitely DON'T stop doing it. But keep in mind that you are putting yourself out there (especially if you include your face). And no one wants to be the next Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton...
-Eager Beaver