I don't really understand the whole communicate and have a relationship by text thing. Back in my day each house had maybe two or three phones that were all land-lines… that means attached-to-the-wall. If a guy wanted to ask you out he either had to do it in person when you met at school, in a bar, at a wedding, or wherever or call you and hope you were home when he called because, I know, sit down, we didn't have answering machines let alone caller ID! How did we ever meet anybody?! Well, it's been so long I don't really remember, but somehow we all managed just fine.
Does your generation ever just call someone and ask them out? Or is it always by text? It seems so impersonal! And, like the guy doesn't have to try that hard. The bummer is my generation of guys seems to be picking up the trend and I don't know how to decipher it. Is he serious or isn't he? Have you or your friends ever gone out with someone that started out by text but ended up being a relationship? Or is text just the lazy guys way of searching for sex? Which is what it feels like to me!
-Teched-out Hot Mama
My Dear Sweet out-of-touch Hot Mama,
This may be one of the things that I hate most about guys from my generation. I don't know if it is because they are EXTREMELY lazy, or if they honestly just fear rejection THAT MUCH, but yes, texting is a huge form of communication. Often times in the relationships of my generation, it is the main form of communication. It's funny because my roommate has been dating this guy on and off for literally 7 years, and he tells her all the time that he hates to talk on the phone. He practically refuses to call her. And then they fight all the time because of all of this "mis-communication." It drives me absolutely insane because it's like, "WELL OF COURSE YOU GUYS ARE CONFUSED, YOU NEVER ACTUALLY SPEAK TO EACH OTHER."
Although I am a big texter, and find myself doing it throughout the day, I find texting to be annoying at times. It's just another way that guy's are getting to take the easy way out. It is easy to ask a girl out via a text, and then if she says no or never responds, a guy doesn't have to face the rejection in person or over the phone. I recently had a guy (one of my friend's ex-boyfriends), ask me out with a text, and I just didn't respond. He then asked again (WITH A TEXT) why I never responded... And I told him that I didn't respond to texts asking me out on a date.
I do still have hope for the men of my generation and yours. I still have guys ask me out on actual dates (like in person or over the phone!) It's funny because these men may be less attractive than their texting peers, but I find that I have so much more respect for them. We as women, can't let men get away with this. If we respond to their booty call text and invitations for dates via a "Want to hang out?" text message, then we are just playing into their game! We need to stop the cycle and say enough is enough... man up and ASK US OUT!
-Still Hopeful Eager Beaver
PS I even googled this, and found an article that says that 35% of the 150 people
surveyed ask people out via text for the first date!
http://newslite.tv/2009/02/02/most-first-dates-arranged-over.html
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