Interesting proposition for you: On the radio this morning they were talking about this "test" and I need to know if you would EVER consider trying something like this. So they were calling random women and asking them to try the, "$5 Test." Apparently what you do is go to a bar with only five dollars, and see if you can last the whole night and still drink and have fun (aka get guys to buy drinks for you). Now, I'm not going to lie... I definitely let guys buy me drinks at the bar. BUT, I never go to the bar with the intention of not spending any of my own money, and relying strictly on men to pick up the tab. I guess I was raised to be more self sufficient than that. I appreciate it for sure when guys buy me drinks, but I have a job and I am perfectly capable of buying my own drinks. Now I know this doesn't take into account men's motives for buying you drinks... which is generally to get you to go home with them (Am I right?!?).
But to me doing something like this would make me feel almost as sleazy as some of the men that I meet. Is this a test that we should try? Do other women actually go out there and do things like this? I don't spend a lot of money at the bars when I go out, but it is never a personal mission of mine to spend the least amount possible. And sometimes I even want to return the favor and buy a cute guy who has been buying me drinks all night a drink... Is that so wrong? Should we be using men for the free drinks? They are in fact the ones who think that by buying us the drinks they can get us to go home with them...
-Eager Beaver
Eager Beaver,
Interesting dilemma. My inital reaction was "Sure, why not? Sounds like fun". However, then do you find yourself flirting with guys you have no interest in just to get a free drink? And how do you shake them if you have no interest and want to move on to the guy you're really interested in? I'm not so disturbed by the financial part for a guy, lord knows how much they remember they consume in alcholol and, for sure, they use it as an excuse to get to know us and into our pants. But I would also feel a little class-less just getting drinks from a guy and not having any real interest in him. That seems low-brow to me. The argument could be made that it's certainly no worse than accepting a date, having him take you to dinner and then not having sex with him. So, if it's not a moral issue for someone, and I don't think it's whether or not you were raised to be self-sufficient because we still expect them to pay for dates, and you're not worried about a guy thinking you're a bitch, then I'd say go for it. But still, for me, I just would not want the hassle of shaking a guy off at the end of the night.
Hot Mama
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