I am nervous. Since we've joined these online dating sites I haven't met anybody that I really care to see again, except for this week I'm seeing one man again (we already had a lunch date) AND I have two other dates lined up and possibly one more. That's FOUR different men! And they all have really good potential. The problem isn't them, it's me. I was home last night pondering if after 8 years I was really ready to have a man around again. I mean I've gotten used to making my own schedule, eating what I want (and what the kids want), seeing my friends when I want, exercising when I want, watching the TV shows I like, no sports on in the house, ever, (not that I hate sports but I'd much rather watch a marathon of "Say Yes to the Dress" and I can!), sunbathing when I want (without looking like a beauty!), traveling wherever I want to go when I want to go, having family over when it's convenient for me (and not worrying about someone else's family), attending my kids sporting events, having the pets I want, buying what I want, buying what the kids want, sleeping alone (no snoring, no jostling, no alarm clock ringing at a different time), etc., etc.
It's been so nice NOT worrying about someone else's laundry, work schedule, golf schedule, family problems, meal preferences, my kid's behavior (always seen differently when someone else is around), my pet's behavior, the cleanliness of my house, the cleanliness of me, their kid's schedule and needs, an ex-wife, their travel preferences, their favorite TV shows, their sleeping habits and patterns, etc. , etc. It just seems like I'll have another child to take care of, a 6'1" 195 pound child who shaves and sits like a lunk on the couch while I scramble trying to get everything done for the family just like I do now. I mean, do men EVER drive home from work and wonder if they need to do laundry because we might be out of clean underwear or socks? NO! HELP! After all this time I can't see the upside (aside from SEX!) for having a man around. Can you see even ONE upside?-Hot Mama Not Ready for a Man
Hot Mama,
It's funny, because I feel like we are SO in the same boat on this one. After graduating from school I was living at home with my parents for about a year. During that time, I obviously wasn't in a serious relationship (not like I could have my boyfriend sleeping over at Mom and Dad's...) Out of respect for my parents, I wouldn't stay at my guy's house either. Now that I am finally on my own and living in my own apartment, all of these things are actually a possibility. But I SO understand where you are coming from and I feel exactly the same way. I can wear whatever I want to bed, and sprawl out, and not worry about waking up every five minutes because someone is making me hot or breathing all over me. I have the flexibility to get up early and work-out before work, and not worry if I am going to wake them up. Mr.Mixed Messages has stayed over a lot, and every time that he has, I can't wait for him to leave. My home has become my own sanctuary! I totally know what you mean about not wanting to share it. Only once in my life have I actually wanted to share every part of my life with someone else. Maybe it's that we just haven't met the right guys that we want to allow into every aspect of our lives yet? I think that if someone fantastic came along, we would compromise on what we eat for dinner... right?! I can't imagine throwing the kids into the mix too. I am so busy with work, traveling for work, working out, and obligations with friends, that I can't imagine throwing two teenagers into the mix.
So KUDOS to you Hot Mama! Let's hope that someday we will meet the right guy that we want to do laundry for and watch sports with... Until then let's keep sitting on the couch, eating bon-bon's and watching as many episodes of, "Say Yes to the Dress," as we want!
-Eager Beaver
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